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I have been seeing doctors off and on for my mental health. I was seeing a psych that my mom and I liked, however, the place was under the impression that I had an insurance plan that they didn’t take. They stopped taking my card. So It was a long and hard battle going without meds. My mom then referred me to a place she was going to.
I was given a therapist that I liked. She listened, she understood me. Then in April of 2018, I got a call from her that she was leaving due to personal issues. The place had to find a doctor to put me with. I get a letter from the chosen doctor a month later.
Before finding out he was trash, he informed me that my old doctor did not leave any notes on the computer for when I came in and what I talked about. Therefore, there was no proof that I showed up for my appointments. He said my check-in history was there, but it still wasn’t enough proof that I actually showed up for my appointments.
I feel this caused me to be denied disability benefits. What if social security contacted this place and asked for notes from the doctor? If she didn’t save any notes what so ever, SS probably thought my condition isn’t bad and denied me. However, they still used their default excuse.
There some signs that this doctor was going to be garbage that I did not pick up right away. One sign is he never really listened. He asked me have I tried to find a job and I told him about that useless program that I went through.
The program was the closest I came to finding a job. He proceeds to keep asking me every time we met. He claims that my autism diagnoses are nowhere to be found. I gave him my IEP records and he said he saw no record of the autism testing the school did. I told him 5 times that those papers are my IEP records and NOT the testing the school did for autism.
He would not listen. In his eyes if he cannot see it written down, it doesn’t exist, you don’t have it. My mom found the paper with the results of the test while looking for something. For all he knew, my previous Dr. when I used to live in the suburbs had my autism in the records. Because specifically, he couldn’t find it, I don’t have autism to start. That’s like saying MT. Everest doesn’t exist because you don’t know where it’s located.
I went up there once a month because it takes me an hour to get there and that’s too much going back and forth. I saw the psych for my meds maybe every 2 months. My next appointment to get my meds was 3 months away and he kept saying I can’t go that long before seeing him. I said 5 times I was gonna come back sooner, he would not listen. I could not see him because the office never wrote down when I scheduled an appointment and when I called they told me he was on vacation.
All he did was invalidate my struggles, compare me to other people and assume I’m supposed to be like others with my disorders. He had a problem with me calling my mom when he told me something. I only called her while it’s fresh because I will forget by the time I got home. Mental illness gives you extreme memory loss. Also, when given a lot of information at once, it’s hard for my brain to soak it in.
I really could not stand him. I think I got stuck with him due to my old doctor not leaving any notes. This is why it’s important to keep notes. In the event you retire, get sick/hurt, die, etc then the place will have notes about your patients and they can get with the right replacement. He invalidates my Vertigo for the same sorry ass excuse ‘there is no record of it.’ The TRUTH is that my regular doctor had it on file. NOT him. He thinks if your traits with a condition are different then you don’t have it.
That’s like telling someone they don’t have cancer because they’re not bald. Maybe they didn’t get chemo. Maybe they were able to have whatever cancer removed and had rad treatment to kill off the residue cells. It’s the principals. There is not much that can be done other than taking meds for this condition when I need it. This doctor is the biggest POS to ever live. HE didn’t have any records of said condition, my regular doctor did. To him, if he doesn’t have records then your condition doesn’t exist. He thinks if you have a different form than it doesn’t exist.
This is why people do not seek help. There is a stigma that surrounds mental health. This guy is a therapist but does not understand how mental illness can affect you. He thinks you can only get SSI for depression is if you cry all the time. What an idiot. Depression is more than just crying just like epilepsy is more than just seizures. You cannot just focus on only one part of an illness, you need to look at everything behind it. My memory loss will complicate a job and keeps me from working. What if I forget something important? Mental illness makes you tired. That will affect my work performance if I have to constantly stop for a rest. My paranoia, how I take criticism as an attack etc.
As of now, I no longer see this therapist. It will affect my disability case if they ask him for notes and he just tells them nothing is wrong and there is no record of XYZ. It’s out of my control. That’s not my fault that my old doctor didn’t leave any notes and that I was given a bad doctor.
I think it was irresponsible of this place that they did not pick up that the doctor left no notes and if they didn’t see any, they should have called me and let me know.
If you’re having a problem finding someone’s doctor or finding them a new doctor, call and let them know so they can tell you what they need, not stick them with a random person!